Peb nyiam nyeem txog lub neej ntawm lwm tus neeg. Nyob rau hauv xyoo tas los no, raws li qhov muaj koob meej ntawm ntau hom phau ntawv tau poob qis, cov ntaub ntawv muag khoom rau biographical thiab autobiographical memoirs tseem muaj zog. Nyob rau tib lub sijhawm, kev nthuav dav ntawm blogs thiab kev siv social media los suav cov xwm txheej hauv peb lub neej niaj hnub tau loj heev. Txhua tus, zoo li, xav qhia lawv zaj dab neeg.
Qhov no tsis yog qhov xav tsis thoob. Nyob rau hauv lub xyoo pua xeem, ib tug xov tooj ntawm psychologists tau sau txog cov haib tib neeg xav tau kev nkag siab ntawm ib tug lub neej. Erik Erikson tau piav qhia txog lub neej txoj kev ntshaw los tsim kom muaj tus kheej thiab pom lub hom phiaj. Nws niaj hnub Abraham Maslow tau tsim ib txoj kev xav ntawm "tus kheej-ua kom muaj tseeb", tsib theem ntawm tib neeg cov kev xav tau uas ua rau muaj kev xav tau kom muaj kev nkag siab ntawm kev ua tiav thiab ua tiav ib lub peev xwm tshwj xeeb. Kom meej meej, nco qab thiab ua kom paub txog peb yav dhau los pab peb tsim kom muaj tus kheej thiab lub hom phiaj.
Niaj hnub no, txawm li cas los xij, thaum peb raug ntxias los ntawm kev cuam tshuam thiab cuam tshuam los ntawm cov ntaub ntawv ntau dua li peb tuaj yeem ua tau, lub neej yuav zoo li tsis sib haum xeeb thiab chaotic. Qhov no, ntawm qhov tod tes, yuav ua rau peb tsis ntseeg peb lub cim xeeb thiab xav tsis thoob yog tias peb puas yuav pom qhov tseeb, kev coj ua thiab lub hom phiaj.
Ib txoj hauv kev zoo tshaj plaws kom nco qab thiab ua kom nkag siab txog qhov tshwm sim hauv koj lub neej yog khaws cia ib daim ntawv teev npe. Raws li Arthur Applebee, xibfwb hauv Tsev Kawm Ntawv Kev Kawm ntawm Albany University hauv New York, khaws cov ntaub ntawv ntawm tus kheej cov xwm txheej - txawm tias hauv online lossis, zoo dua, los ntawm tes - ua rau koj mus txog qhov laj thawj ntau ntxiv txog qhov koj tau kawm.
Kev sau cia qhov koj tau ntsib kuj tseem txhim kho koj lub peev xwm nco qab nws tom qab, raws li Martin Conway thiab Sue Gathercole tau qhia hauv ntau qhov kev sim ua hauv Lancaster University.
Yog tias koj xav ua kom yooj yim npaum li qhov ua tau kom rov qab nco qab cov xwm txheej tsis ntev los no kom raug, lub sijhawm zoo tshaj plaws los ua yog mus pw, raws li Agnes Szollosi thiab nws cov npoj yaig ntawm University of Technology thiab Economics hauv Budapest nrhiav pom. Lawv tau nrhiav 109 tus hluas thiab hais kom lawv khaws daim ntawv teev npe txhua hnub rau tsib hnub. Cov neeg tuaj koom tau muab ib qho ntawm peb cov lus qhia: kom sau thaum yav tsaus ntuj cov xwm txheej ntawm tib hnub ntawd; sau cov xwm txheej thaum sawv ntxov ntawm hnub dhau los; los yog sau cov xwm txheej yav tsaus ntuj ntawm hnub dhau los.
Peb caug hnub tom qab, cov neeg koom tau raug hais kom rov qab ntau npaum li qhov lawv tau sau tseg raws li qhov ua tau. Cov neeg uas tau khaws lawv phau ntawv teev npe yav tsaus ntuj - txawm hais tias lawv tau hais txog cov xwm txheej ntawm tib hnub ntawd lossis hnub ua ntej - tau nco qab ntau dua thiab muaj tseeb dua li cov neeg koom uas tau sau lawv qhov chaw teev cia thaum sawv ntxov. Cov kws tshawb fawb qhia tias qhov no yog vim tias thaum peb nco qab cov xwm txheej ua ntej yuav mus pw, cov kev nco tau sib sau ua ke thiab ruaj khov thaum pw tsaug zog tom qab.